‘Porn Sex Vs. Real Sex’: How Pornography Is Ruining Sexual Expectations And Pressuring People Into An Unrealistic Fantasy [VIDEO]

"Porn Sex vs. Real Sex" What is the difference? Weigh in on the debate between the two! Youtube.com

Porn sex and real sex are not the same thing. Not even close. What paid actors do in a fake setting on film should not also occur in a viewer's bedroom, right? Then why has real sex has taken on the form of porn performed poorly?

The dissimilarity of the two types of sex are discussed in a new video "Porn Sex vs. Real Sex: The Differences Explained with Food." The already viral video, which stars your average fruits and veggies, debunks many of the sexual myths that we seem to simply believe because of their appearance in pornographic films. The video begins with a zucchini and the blunt distinction citing the size of a male porn star's anatomy compared to the average males, the zucchini in question is then cut in half. It moves through a series of sexual misconceptions including the time needed for average people to become aroused, the standard ejaculation time for men, and a staggering stat that reveals 71 percent of women do not experience an orgasm through penetration alone, contrary to what porn has taught us.

"Porn Sex vs. Real Sex" What is the difference? Weigh in on the debate between the two! Youtube.com

So now that we have sound evidence that tells us that porn sex and real sex are different, what actually differentiates them so drastically? What the difference really boils down to is that fact that porn is not real. Jincey Lumpkin, the founder of Juicy Pink Box, revealed that porn involves "posturing for the camera," "flattering" angles and "cutting together of the scenes." If real men and women were to stop during intercourse in order to achieve their best angle for their partner, their sexual experience would be void of natural pleasure and enjoyment. Nina Hartley, an adult film actress, also admitted the large performance presence within pornographic films. "Pornography is a paid, professional performance by actors. It is a fantasy, it is not meant to be a rulebook and guidebook or a how to as a general rule."

With porn sex being admittedly fake, why does it influence our real sex so heavily? Like, Hartley said, we are using porn as a guide to make the rules for real sex. We have now become so desensitized by porn that for real sex to be fulfilling one must perform acts that are only done by paid actors. For example, in porn threesomes are frequent, but only 20 percent of real people have engaged in sex with more than one partner. Porn should not be our guide to engaging in intercourse, our relationships and own bodies should be our guide. Citizen Link provided a breakdown of females vs. males and their interaction with internet pornography, 76.8 percent of females have NEVER viewed pornography for more than 30 minutes while 34.8 percent of males have viewed pornography for more than 30 minutes over 10 times. Furthermore, in a 2008 study, 813 undergraduate students of both men and women were asked about their viewing of internet pornography; 86 percent of adult men reported having used pornography at some level in the past year, with approximately one fifth of men in that age range reporting daily or every-other-day use and nearly half (48.4 percent) reporting pornography use weekly or more.

Male's use of pornography causes great concern for not only sex lives, but intimate relationships, and the ability to build a mutually beneficial relationship. The easy availability of internet porn has caused 93.2 percent of college-aged males to encounter internet pornography before the age of 18, meaning that from the time when most men embark start having intercourse, they are also viewing a surmounting amount of porn and then emulating what they see in their intimate relationships. Women are portrayed in two very contrasting styles in porn, they are either submissive, young, school girls, or older, authoritative dominatrixes. These horrible misconceptions about women's roles in the bedroom have become so common place that they now extend into society, with women being portrayed by men as only dumb, young girls or older, catty, women. Porn creates these unreal expectations, which men and women will continually disagree on. Porn also pressures both men and women into an unreal expectations. Men and women feel they need to be incredibly well endowed, while women also feel pressure to perform certain demeaning and simply uncomfortable tasks during intercourse.

Until we can shed light on the fact that porn is not the rulebook to follow, porn sex will forever influence real sex. And by pornography becoming easier to attain it has influenced younger generations, children will always have a desire to emulate pop culture, and with pop culture comes the big bad idea of "sex sells." In fact, sex has always been a part of our culture, what we need to learn in the Internet age is that real sex is not a performance. Sex is vital part to building a relationship, it is the means to making a family, and while there will always be toys, costumes and role playing in sex, we must remind ourselves that porn is fake and dispel the unrealistic expectations that come along with it.

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Donovan Longo

Donovan Longo, staff reporter, joined the Latin Times team in February 2013 and has quickly become our resident pop culture expert. As a native New Yorker and Fordham University alumni, Donovan has always had her finger on the cultural pulse and is here to get you in the know.  As a follower of Donovan’s writing you will undoubtedly win a game of thrones, survive a zombie apocalypse, fall in love with a vampire and outsmart the CIA.